We Indians believe that marriage is a sacrosanct tie made in Heaven, however, not all marriages are meant to last and not all couples are meant to grow old together. In modern times as the dynamics of relationships are changing, people are becoming more and more inclined towards realizing that an end of a matrimonial bond does not mean the end of the world and hence they are now becoming more accepting and adaptive towards conscious uncoupling. Society is realizing that even the healthiest relationships, like everything else in life, have a natural ebb and flow to them.

The point is that relationships, like our bodies, change over time. We believe that there are several stressors in a marriage. These could range from work-related issues to incompatibility problems and even unrealistic or unmet expectations from each other either economically, emotionally, or sexually. There are also factors like personal identity, expectations, desires, and needs that get woven throughout that framework but in the big picture, when you look at the onset of marital erosion, effective communication is usually the glaring void. Other factors such as refusal to accept blame, denial of existing problems, and in certain extreme cases violence, abuse, and abandonment. Financial independence and having a work-life have now become essential in every marriage where it is not just the husband who is the earning member of the family but the wife as well who has been shouldering the family's financial responsibility. However, if the work and home life balance is not struck to the right chord, this can also lead to distance between the couple.

Couples usually underestimate how helpful a neutral third party can be to them, thus we at AnaghaLegal are associated with various Marriage counsellors and drive the individuals to attempt sessions with Marriage counsellors before they initiate the process of separation so as to work over the marital discord. It also ensures that the parties have no guilt that they could have given at least a try to the relationship before parting ways abruptly. As there is no guarantee /assurance that the next relationship/ companion could be better than the previous giving a thought to the current situation would be sensible at times. Marriage counsellors provide a neutral, unbiased, and transparent platform to express the dormant emotions without being judgmental to the most vulnerable act of the individual. This itself is comforting and building confidence and helps the couple to take their decisions consciously.

It also helps the couple immerse themselves in a marriage intensive format that allows a safe and singular focus which means you are no longer you and your spouse. You are now you, your spouse, and your marriage.

While we agree that not all marriages and counselling end in a fairy-tale but there is no harm in giving it a shot instead of living in denial and expect only your youthful selves to look back at, from the mirror.